Repeat Yoga Days

As a yoga teacher who gets the privilege of making all of my own flows and classes, I was terrified of doing a repeat class. What if the class remembered the flow, what if they were wanting something totally new. Some weeks it would be a struggle to put something together and most of the time it would be some variation of the other flows anyways. But just this last week in my class we did a pretty challenging flow, and while my class really loves these I don’t want to make them do something super challenging each class. So as sat there thinking what I would possibly make up for them, what I would possibly be able to do with them to give them some sort of break, I thought back to the basic power flow that was taught to us in teacher training. It had been a while since I had used that particular flow, and it was still energy building but without all of the work that the last flow had offered. So it would be a nice break.

But somewhere in the back of my mind I was terrified of using something that I had already used before, because somehow it felt like I was cheating or not doing the work that I should be. And honestly, this is a mindset that I would love to just kick to the curb.

For one thing, a lot of studios offer the same basic class. Which is why I was taught this flow in my teacher training because the studio used that as their beginner class. As they taught it to us they told us to learn in and go use it in our own classes. It’s not a bad thing to use something again and again, and some people really enjoy having a solid flow that’s the same thing every time. I mean, studios that use that method are clearly doing pretty well for themselves so something must be right with having a basic flow.

But I could not for the life of me think of a flow that would be a suitable change after something super challenging. I kept coming back to the basic flow. I mean it’s a good flow, it hits all the things you’d want in an energy flow yoga class and it really brings out the physical side of yoga without being too much work.

So why is it such a huge deal then when I want to do a repeat? And where did this mindset come from? Since clearly that is not what I was taught in training. As a yoga teacher, it can be a little nerve wracking getting up in front of people each week and presenting something that you made. Especially for me, the teacher training that I took did not spend a huge amount of time on the actual how to for making flows. I think we spent like 2 hours on that. A day at most. Which really, it should of been one of the main things we went over. So, you’ve got to make this flow and you already are like “what if they don’t like it?” and then you feel like you should of gotten more training in actually making your own flows as well.

Plus, not every flow is going to be a winner. It just isn’t, everyone is different and everyone likes different things. It’s natural that your flow just won’t resonate with someone that week. It happens to me sometimes as well, I just don’t like the flow and it’s not to say I didn’t enjoy the class or doing yoga but it’s not what I would have chosen for myself. And to cater to several people and all of their different likes, it certainly is a challenging career. I love yoga, and I love making flows. But it’s also really difficult at times as well.

I’m also not a huge social person. I’m just not. I’m not sure how I got to be a yoga instructor, and having to spend an entire hour talking to an entire class but I am. But it’s still hard for me, and I am human so I have all these doubts in my head about how I am teaching and how people like it. I’m sure as I teach even longer I will be okay, but for now it still feels new and fresh and I’m like “okay who trusted me to teach people this stuff.” so it can be slightly scary.

But once I let go of how people will perceive me, and I just go with what feels the best for class this time around, I get the best flows and ideas. And if a repeat is needed, then it’s needed. A huge part of it is just coming to terms with what I am feeling that week. What will feel the most right, what is going to be the best? And then I go with that.  I also base it off other weeks, while we are an energy flow class I do not want to make them work super hard each time. So if one class was more intense, the next one will be more mellow.

And in reality, repeating a flow that I used 3 months ago, isn’t going to be the end of my class. Yoga instructors have fears as well, however yoga really helps to focus on other things and not just the fear. And overcoming fears and doubts is a part of the teacher life. And chances are the class will really love the flow anyways, and most likely will not notices its the same exact flow. No one is THAT good at memorizing something they’ve done once. It took me ages to get that flow down and it did it everyday for months.

So, never be afraid to use a repeat flow. Never be afraid to take a repeat flow. Sometimes some repetition can be the best thing we need in life.

 

Facebook isn’t a valid news source

I see this ALL the time, way too often actually, and it’s quite scary. Something is posted or shared and it goes viral and people are outraged (or super happy, depending on the post) and suddenly in a flurry it’s all over Facebook. I have seen post on how it’s the end of the world, photos of all of the “awful” things happening around the world, and even some good things. Share this photo and get free chipotle! Yeah, I have been there and done that and guess what, if you show that photo to a fast food chain they will laugh at you and say sorry, this isn’t valid please actually buy your meal.

But why do we this? We share something without really thinking of it’s origins or where it came from or who even originally posted it. And it’s not too hard to find out what is falsified and what is actually real. I mean google searches can tell you where pictures actually came from. Searching for the original post can tell you if this is a legit facebook sharing stuff or one that was just created to share this account of things that suddenly has surfaced but is totally true. And just plain common sense will tell you what is entirely plausible, and what isn’t.

Remember the tide pod eating craze? And then right after it suddenly became huge news that kids were snorting condoms? Yeah, the actual video of that was from years ago, from one kid who was doing some kind of challenge. But everyone believed that kids were now snorting condoms because someone found this video and shared it like “kids now days snort condoms! First tide pods, now this? Crazy!” and it was insane how fast people believed this to be something kids were actually doing quite regularly. Which in turn led kids to actually try it, though thankfully only a couple did. At least only a couple filmed and published it. But a quick youtube search will show you like 2 kids who actually tried, tons of news videos on this “new trend” and then videos from a year ago, 5 years ago and even 10 years ago.

I watched a video one time, about a person talking to a snake. They said to the snake, “You have legs! It was on facebook, so it’s true!” and while the snake tried to tell the person how stupid it was, snakes don’t have legs, the person shared the post and told everyone they know that snakes do have legs. Because it was on facebook, so it must be true. Here is the actual video if you ever want to watch it. While incredibly dumb, it has a point. Just believing something that is from our facebook timeline isn’t actually a valid source.

Here is a thing though, people can post whatever they want. Google has a bajillion images that anyone can download. And photoshop exists. So this tweet that is supposedly from some verified account saying these newsworthy things is actually very easily edited in photoshop. I have no idea how to use photoshop and I can safely tell you that I would be able to make up a fake tweet. If you really want to know if someone actually tweeted this out, go sift through all the tweets they have tweeted. Also good luck, because my twitter alone has over 12K tweets and I’m not even verified.

The facts are though, just because something is posted, doesn’t mean it’s true. Just because they have a photo, doesn’t mean it’s true. People lie, people make stuff up and people spread rumors about all kinds of things. It’s sad, but it’s true.

All those go fund me links you see asking for donations? Do you even know where this money is going. Maybe it’s the still the broke college kid in me but when I see a link, I don’t just drop money all over it. I don’t know the people personally asking, I do not 100% know for sure that they even need the money for what they say because I have never met them. And it’s sad, because I would love to be able to help everyone who needs help. But not through a link online, in a world where people can make false profiles and write whatever they want. I do not know if they will actually take the money and use it for what they claim, or if this is a scam because they know if they get a picture of a little girl and say she needs help she is so sick people will donate money to them. Not to mention the thousands of funding pages for things like “help me buy this, I need a car, I want to travel etc” which alone make a person shudder with the amount of funding pages people have for things they really should just be saving up for with their own money. As much as I would love to have an all expenses paid vacation via go fund me, I can go to work and save my money and do it myself.

The thing is though, we live in a fast social media world now. Where people are obsessed with sharing everything. But we never get the whole story. The videos of people being treated “poorly” at a store or restaurant could very well be an act. Because all we see is the last half of what was going on, with this person claiming that they are being treated so poorly. But what went on before the video was recorded? How was this person acting before they suddenly decided that they were wronged and need evidence of this? I could go into a store and make a huge scene and get kicked out, then start recording as security removed me yelling about how they are being rude to me just because I am a girl. Chances are people would share the crap out of that, saying “don’t shop here they are sexist towards woman.” and bam. Half a truth has suddenly become the only truth in the eyes of social media.

But because it was posted online it must be true. And that’s honestly the scariest thought to think about. People don’t take the time anymore to look things up, read from actual sources AND to read both sides of an issue. We see something, we believe it, we share it. So when did facebook photos and peoples tweets become the news? My goodness, look up press releases and statements and find out where those posts actually came from.

Have you ever looked up one of those “bad” posts people have shared. For example a while ago it was huge news that a worker at a restaurant purposely put meat into a vegan meal. While they had screen shots of the actual post of the worker bragging about doing it, it was no where to be found online. And you can go to their profile real quick and find out if it’s on there or not. Now I know that things can be deleted but also, wouldn’t there be more of a trace of it than just that one screen shot? Things online are never truly gone after all.

And honestly, I get it. Because you see something and you feel like you need to be outraged and do something about it so you share it. But spreading false news and media lies won’t help anything. What does help is finding out what is really going on, sharing the actual news and then doing something accordingly. Because simply sharing a post claiming to be truth is only going to cause more hurt and confusion in the long wrong. Facebook isn’t our news source, social medias aren’t platforms of truth and literally anything can be falsified. We have some very passionate people who think by making posts on facebook they are helping the issues of the world. And it’s having an opposite effect.

So before going on a social media outrage rant, before sharing anything, before making claims find out more about it. Look stuff up, do your own research and make sure that you know for sure what you are sharing. It doesn’t take that much more effort to do a little homework, and it can do a world of good in the social media world.

What no one tells you about trying to get pregnant

Whoa, heavy topic coming through. Be prepared, but honestly I feel like this one is long overdue, especially as me and my husband continue our family and planning and as we try to have a baby.

*This post will also get a little personal, if you are not comfortable talking about the process of trying for a baby just pass over this one.* 

We’ve been trying for a few months now, which is not super long but also long enough to learn some things I had never known before and also feel that bitter disappointment when you get a negative test. But honestly, there are so many things that come into family planning, and no one seems to talk about that side of things. It would of seriously made the beginning of our journey so much better if we had known these things beforehand. And it’s tough, especially just starting out because you just don’t know. So here are some things that no one told me, or talked about, when we started trying. The best and the worst of it all.

  1. People will shame you for being honest; as soon as I told my family we were trying for a baby I got those disapproving stares. The kind where it’s like, why are you even telling me this? You aren’t actually pregnant. When I was told we should have kids I said responded with “that’s the plan”  my mom was the first one to tell me how dumb that was which leads into my second point right away. But honestly, wether you want to let people know or not is totally up to you. Personally, I like having a certain amount of honesty, what’s the point of even hiding it? I am not ashamed I want a baby, I am not ashamed that we made this decision to try. And honestly it’s a big step, sometimes simply talking about things can really help.
  2. People are going to tell you the worst things; going off that last point, after my mom told me how stupid it was to tell people we are trying, she went into to tell me “well, what if you never have any children, you could have to adopt.” Like, gee thanks for that, because that is exactly what I needed to hear. But ignore anyone who says stuff like that to you. Especially in our case when we just started out, there is no reason someone needs to give you that fear and adding to your stress.
  3. Don’t use lube; um say what?! Yeah, I was super shocked about this one and could not believe it. While it seemed like common sense after the fact, it just did not occur to us maybe we shouldn’t be using anything extra. Traditional lubes can act as a block or barrier and not allow sperm to pass. Try to get a little creative instead so you don’t need the lube, or if you truly need it try an alternative method. They make special lube to help aid sperm or natural oils (like olive oil) can work just as well and will not act as a barrier. Seriously, this was one tip that had me hitting my head on my hand when I learned.
  4. It can be super fun; okay so we all know that most sites and blogs will warn you that trying can make you hate sex, especially having to do it so often or if you just overdo it in general. But they also don’t tell you that it can be even more fun, as well as having an added closeness to your partner. Yeah, honestly you could get tired of it, but you could also just enjoy the frequency and mix it up a bit as well. There isn’t really a reasoning for this, other than having a goal in mind can definitely change sex for you.
  5. Everyone else will conceive long before you do; sad, but honestly so true. Maybe it’s just me or maybe it’s just my particular social medias but pretty much everyone I know is pregnant. I am not even kidding in the slightest. It just happens, especially if you are friends with a ton of girls your age. If you’re at an age you feel ready than chances are so is everyone else. And while this can be a bit of a bummer, it’s just how it goes. And chances are, they had to do their fair share of waiting for it to happen as well.
  6. It’s a huge waiting game; movies always show it as “Oh? Maybe I should take a test!” or somehow the woman didn’t realize she was pregnant until she actually got symptoms. But truth be told, if you are trying you know your cycle like the back of your hand. So you are literally just wanting until it’s the right time to test, or until your period comes. Especially in the early months of trying. But if you’re trying chances are you aren’t going to forget when your period comes and you certainly won’t be waiting until you start barfing or your boobs hurt to actually test. (Yes, I am so throwing shade at the movie What To Expect When You’re Expecting because come on, how am I supposed to believe that a woman who had an app to say when she was exactly ovulating wouldn’t notice her period being late by a few weeks?)
  7. People will tell you super nice things; my sister would really help out when I was upset. She would tell me that these things take time and it will happen when it’s right. Which at the time did not help, but after I calmed down I realized that she is right. And I have been on birth control and that definitely messed up my cycle as well. But she was really helpful and got me back on track. While it might not seem like it at the time, it really can be and it will also ground back onto your focus.
  8. In the end, it’s all worth it; trying can be one of the most difficult times in life, but it’s also so worth it. Eventually, you will get there. Maybe it takes years, maybe it’ll happen soon. Maybe it will never happen and we do end up adopting. But either way we move forward in life and get one more step closer to our family planning. Either that or I talk my husband into yet another cat.

 

Hopefully something on this list prepares you, I would have loved a heads up before we started. And just remember if you are in the same boat that I am in, it does indeed take time. Though it doesn’t seem like it for others, it does and it’s just going to happen when it happens. Keep out the negatives, keep stress levels low (I know, this one is so hard for me ugh) and just keep trying. It can be so scary, truly it can, but instead of focusing on the fear look forward to what is to come. However scary it will be, life is progressing. It won’t always go how we like, that’s for sure, but it’s still better than sitting still.

If you like this post and want more of this journey and real stuff just comment below. I love to share my journeys with others in hopes that it can also help out other people.

The importance of breathing in yoga

Honestly, I get this question a lot, way more often then you’d think. And even from people who have been doing yoga for ages. “Why is the breath important?” Or some variation of this question. Like, “you give a lot of breath cues, it takes away from the flow.” Or “Do you need to say every inhale and exhale?” Which I mean, no I really don’t need to say to inhale to table top or exhale to sit. But the breath cues play a huge role in the practice and yes I really do need those inhales and exhales for twists and other postures that you don’t just dump yourself into.

So why is it that the breathing is such an important role in your yoga practice? And while I was taught in a very active from of yoga that requires breathing cues the entire time, it’s still a key element to every practice. Look up any well loved, and respectable, yoga instructor on youtube. They take a few minutes at least to chill out before practice and come to your breath and honestly its for good reason too. 172776510.jpg

Okay so let’s break this down then. First off the very definition of yoga is literally postures to breath. A form of active meditation, and honestly the postures are just a tiny bit of the yoga. A huge part of yoga is actually the breath work, meditation and all in all a good mind set and solid focus. It’s main goal is to bring in relaxation and meditation, maybe calming someone after a stressful day or bringing the focus that they need.

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  1. a Hindu spiritual and ascetic discipline, a part of which, including breath control, simple meditation, and the adoption of specific bodily postures, is widely practiced for health and relaxation.

I mean, the google definition of yoga is literally just that. Breath control, its a discipline for specific purposes. The thing is, breath is the LEAST talked about in a yoga practice. Like sure, we do little breath warm ups before we start, take some time coming to a good solid (deep) breath that will guide through the postures. But we don’t talk about it. And honestly that’s something that should be talked about, but when people come for a class that is 45, 55 or even 60 minutes long they don’t want time wasted talking about the breath. Because all in all, it’s not what matters to them and it’s not why they came. But it’s something that is huge, major, so important so we should at least mention why we do the breath and not just guide people through it hoping for the best or hoping that it somehow sticks.

Okay, so we know the definition, we know that technically it’s super important and huge, but why is it that way? Why is our breath the key?

First off, it does help your practice. Like a lot. Focusing on the breath can bring in a sense of peace and calm and really bring a person to that meditation mindset. Which sounds so cheesy, but honestly the best practices that I have had are the ones where I focus on my breathing and get into that mind set and just let everything else go. It’s empowering, and just really ties a practice together.

Second, it takes the focus off what you’re doing vs what you need. So instead of focusing on the posture that you need to hold for a frustratingly long time, you breathe. And while it’s still not a simple task to chill out in side plank you can at least breathe through it and in turn strengthen yourself in the long run. headstand-1439439.jpg

Third, strength. You could hold your breath during your side plank, but then your muscles are kind of just chilling out super tight. But if you add in the breath work, it’s just that. Work. Your muscles end up doing even more work, and while it doesn’t actually seem like it you can see results. I have had so many great side planks when I just remember to breathe it out.

Fourth, it actually makes postures easier. GASP! I know that this kind of ties in with the second point, but have you ever done crow pose and just couldn’t do it? Yeah, same. I struggled with it so much. Or a headstand? Yeah those too. But once I learned to breath my way through it (also ENGAGE those abdominal muscles) then I found my balance to be much better and more steady. I am a pro at crow now, and while it took a ton of work to get there my breath work certainly helped me a lot.

Fifth, it literally matches flowing or vinyasa yoga perfectly. Each breath you take you do a pose. Inhale rise, exhale fold etc. It makes the practice flow quite beautifully, and while the constant reminder to breath during your practice seems tedious and quite annoying there is a point to it. Trust me, yoga teachers aren’t just saying it for kicks. If you’re into vinyasa style yoga then you need to have the breath, otherwise your just moving around on a mat.

All in all, breath plays a huge role in yoga. If you’re simply just looking for a workout that is fine, yoga can provide that as well. Breathing can help make it more intense for you though. But if you’re looking to expand in your yoga practice then work on the breath. Explore the different options that are out there and find the best one for your practice. It will make all the difference.

Why I stopped using a menstrual cup

Okay so true to the title this blog is in fact about menstrual cups, more specifically why i stopped using one. So, fair warning, but if you don’t care about this topic at all or just don’t want to learn about this stuff or know it just skip this one because I will be describing why I did not like the cup, what a cup is, how to use it and all of it’s functions.

Now there there is a lot out there on menstrual cups, the majority of it good reviews. Raving about how great it is and all that. And I am not discrediting those, because it is super awesome and works amazing for so many people. But everyone is different and not everything will work for everyone. And while the cup is a great alternative to other disposable products and makes less trash during our periods, the cup just isn’t going to work for some people no matter how many times you try it. And that is fine, but too many times I have seen some nasty comments telling woman to get a different size or do something better because they just have to use the cup to save the environment. Huge no, physical and mental health are super important and if you need to use pads or tampons for that go ahead. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to use the cup or reusable pads or anything else. Helping the environment is important but so is our health. Again, everyone is different and this is just my experience with the cup. Yours may be better or worse, but I figured I would share since there isn’t a whole lot of negative experiences with the cup.

When I first got the cup I was thrilled, I wasn’t going to pay 40$ for one so I got 2 off of Amazon for a great price. This in no way affected my experience at all and was not the cause of my dislike. I just need to say that, I know different cups give different results but I loved my cup to start with so I know that the model that I got was not just a knock off. It takes a lot of getting used to though and it took me a couple periods just to get the hang of it. But once I did I had leak free periods and it felt like nothing. a3746e4c8d45981f5dcb6d6e699c2344When I first tried I followed the instructions which said to fold the cup in half but I found that way to be too invasive and big. I googled another way and you can scrunch the cup up even more and it fit much better. I was good to go. However, I didn’t stay on the birth control that I was on and I feel as though that may have affected things quite a bit.

I was on a low dose of the pill, which I should know but honestly it’s been a year so I don’t remember. And then we used condoms for a bit and THEN I switched over to the depo shot because I felt like it would be easier and I didn’t get a period for like 6 months. And then we decided to ditch all forms of birth control and I stopped getting my does of the shots(this was in October of 2017). I had taken two of them so that was 6 months and I didn’t go back after the second. It can take up to a year to become regular again after the depo, which sounded nice at the time but it’s really not when it’s happening. So even after I had stopped I was still only spotting a little bit and didn’t even get a full blown period until January 2018. Also note that we were using condoms up until New Years so I’m not entirely sure if switching birth control around so much affects anything especially when your cycle is already on the fritz, who knows?

So wow, after that wild ride of indecision and what works best for us, I hadn’t used my cup in quite some time. Come January when I am actually getting my cycle back, I have to re-figure out how to use the cup. And this time it took much longer than my first time. No matter what I was trying, I couldn’t get it in comfortably. I would fold it as tiny as I could, I would relax as much as I could (which is super important because if you’re not relaxed it’s not happening) and pretty much anything else that I could try I tried. It wouldn’t suction no matter what, it would always be leaking and I could constantly feel this pressure of where it was. It sat too low, but if it went any higher it would hurt.

And I knew how to do it, I had done this many times before perfectly. It was just not working this time around. After several more periods, and several more days of frustration and leaking I was at my wits end. I also could’t tell how heavy my flow was until the very end. Which that question in itself had already caused a massive controversy on a zero waste page which I have since unfollowed. After finally getting a period I was wondering if it was actually a period of just some irregular spotting, so upon inquiring to see if there was a better way to tell how much the flow was than a cup I got a massive amount of hate for wanting to check more often than 12 hours. Seriously, no joke. Also this is why don’t do facebook groups because honestly those people can be massive jerks and act all righteous about something they don’t understand. But apparently I was stupid for wanting to keep track of something better, like if I have one spot of blood during the day its spotting and if it keeps going thats the flow. You can’t really tell that with the cup though, hence my question. Also another reason I wasn’t really liking the cup very much anymore, I wasn’t able to conclude if I was actually having a flow or spotting because I couldn’t feel anything. Usually that’s not important but when you’re trying to get regular again, it can mean everything.

The latest call of mother nature led me to pull out that cup one more dreaded time. At this point I was sick of the discomfort and pain. It would take me so long to even get it in and it would take several re-tries as well. Plus even if it was in and not leaking I could still feel it. I just was not a fan. So I am already super stressed out  having to do this again, still having issues trying to get it to fit, and all in all just not a fan. Go to put it in, it hurts. It’s uncomfortable and I can feel it. Everything that it’s not supposed to be. I took it out and just used rags instead because I literally had nothing else. And I was done.

Now maybe this is users fault, and maybe I needed a different size. But I got the recommended size for my demographic and I had been using it for a while with no issues. So I honestly don’t think it was either of those. I could try a different brand, but I am not paying more money to try something that I was hating anyways. I honestly just thing that something so large causes some stress upon insertion. It’s tricky and takes some maneuvering and honestly just a lot of work to get used to. And as we continue with our family planning and aiming for a family I just made the choice to remove the cup from my list of products. I wasn’t getting it to work, it was causing a ton of stress and with the discomfort and pain I just felt like it would be best to keep stressful things out. Its a personal choice, and honestly I think it’s the best one. I’m not a huge fan of tampons either, but I live an active lifestyle so when I do need one I use the Lites, which are the smallest they have, and then remove them as soon as I need to and go with other collection methods.

I’m not overly thrilled about this, I was happy to be done with period products. But with the return of my flow and cycle things seem to have changed and I need to do what’s best (and stress free) for my body. I may return to using the cup eventually, but for now it does not seem like a great option right now. I want to remain healthy and conscious of everything going on in my body and if using the cup is causing that much discomfort and stress then clearly it’s time to move on. But they are amazing tools, and wonderful alternatives for our periods. I loved mine so much until it began just not working out for me. And there are so many types that pretty much any woman is bound to find the one that is right for her. However it sucks that we can’t find out which one is best without first spending a ton of money. And there isn’t a lot of sizes for us either. Apparently, we only need 2 sizes of cups. But again, everyone is different and we all need to make the healthiest choice for our bodies. It’s more important to keep ourselves healthy then listen to the opinions of what others think we should be doing.

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To the brother who never visits

To the brother who never visits

To the one who never even texts back

The one who never comes to Sunday dinner

And the one who hardly comes for holidays

Your family doesn’t even know you

We growing up, growing old

And you aren’t even here to see that

Your nephew is growing up fast, and he doesn’t know his uncle

Our mom is hurt she never sees her son, though she wouldn’t dare admit that

You only hang out when you feel like it, and you aren’t even the same person anymore

And your wife, doesn’t even like us, yet you can’t seem to see that

Goodness knows if you did, you’d never even tell her off

You always go to her family for holidays

Forgetting about your own

Like we aren’t good enough, like we mean nothing to you

You don’t get that we miss you, that we want to see you

But one day, it won’t even matter anymore

Because we will have grown up and moved on

Soon your nephew won’t be little anymore, and you will have missed his life

Soon, you will have more than just the one nephew but you will have missed their life too

So all those texts that you ignore, the family you never visit

Soon we won’t be around anymore

And while it hurts us

It’s going to hurt you more

We know your marriage is important

But marriage also isn’t at the expense of your own family

Marriage doesn’t mean you blow your family off

And it doesn’t mean you ignore us

Because families talk

Siblings hang

And we act like we care about each other

So remember us then next time we text

The next time we ask to hang and you refuse

The next Thanksgiving that you promise to show up at, but never actually come to

Because we won’t be here forever, but we’ll wait as long as we can

 

Is zero waste always possible?

This is kind of a huge thing for people trying to cut down their waste, especially when there are items that we actually need in our lives. Medicines, feminine products, medical items etc. So are these items truly necessary or have we just been conditioned to think that they are.

In short, yes. But it is really more complicated than that. It seems that sometimes people are shamed for needing these items, and while it is good to reduce our waste we really need to realize that sometimes people actually do need these things in their lives, they may be trying very hard to be less wasteful and we don’t need to shame them.

Reasons someone might need waste in their life:

-Medical needs. Try as we might we really can’t fix all issues with oils checklist-3222079_960_720

-Medical products- change those gloves, change needles, STOP the spread of disease. Zero waste won’t do any good if we all contract weird viruses.

-Someone may not have time, or the ability, to prep every single meal. We don’t know their life so don’t tell someone they need to buy all zero waste food.

-Some people may not be able to use a menstrual cup, it might be easier for them to use disposable products, we don’t know. So again, no need to judge. Peoples needs are important.

-Maybe it’s just not in their area. I know that it’s really hard for us to get stuff zero waste, save money and not starve.

shy-863056_960_720This is a lifestyle that comes with many privileges. Take a look at this awesome buzzfeed video to see more on it. Zero waste for 30 days.

If you aren’t able to be 100% zero waste don’t feel bad. I used to beat myself up all the time over this. How as I going to buy laundry items that would get clothes clean when we live with 3 cats? In my area I can’t. How can we take care of 3 living creatures without waste? We can’t. I made myself miserable trying to be perfect, when I finally stopped and just did what I could I lived a much happier life.

So try to do what you can, still use what you need. While it is good to question our need of some items we also don’t want to just trash everything just cause of waste.

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