6 things that bothered my about Gilmore Girls

We have all seen the videos on youtube. Things Gilmore Girls fans missed, things that the directors messed up, things that were wrong with Gilmore Girls etc. But this is going to be a little bit different. With such a popular show, there were bound to be some things added in to up the views or appeal to a large group of people. And when that happens people basically end up guessing what people would most like to see and even with a show as popular as Gilmore Girls, there were still a few things that just made everyone seriously question the writers. This list will be entirely biased, just off things that seriously confused or annoyed me. Other people may or may not be bothered by these things, these are just the things that made no sense to me or bothered me about the show. I do welcome varying opinions, just remember to keep it kind in the comments. Everyone views things differently and what bothers me may not bother you. Without any further ado, lets dive into the top things that bothered me about Gilmore Girls. (also please note this is solely on the original series and not the revival, we don’t talk about the revival.)

1.) Lorelai’s independence: the reason that we love Lorelia so much is because she is a strong character, who is able to hold their own. But sometimes her independence was taken a little too far. In the very first episode we clearly see that, while she had issues with it, she borrows money from her parents. But later on she can’t even take a loan from Luke, who made it very clear she would have to pay him back. I get that she was wanting to do things on her own, and make her own way but when you’re stuck in a situation like needing to exterminate termites and have been shut down by every bank in a 50 mile radius then I think it’s time to accept some help. At the very least, she could of acted less of a brat when she had her mom co-sign the loan with her. Co-signing isn’t a bad thing, and it takes years to build credit good enough to take a loan out without a co-signer. There was no need for all that to be drug out, and no need for Lorelai to be kicking and screaming that she was a grown woman. And her pride was the downfall in many episodes. Independence is great, but learn to be humble about it as well. Everyone needs help and it’s not a bad thing.

2.) Bowing down to the Gilmore’s: Okay I get it, Rory loves her grandparents and she doesn’t want to hurt them. Lorelai has rebelled in her own way. But no one can seem to tell the Gilmore’s what’s up? Like come on, that was truly cringe worthy. Every time anything happened between them neither of those girls could just tell Emily what was really going on. When Rory was going to college and Emily was bitter Lorelai didn’t come to dinner so she held Rory hostage I wanted to scream. Literally. So Lorelai comes up, then has a screaming match with her mother about how she couldn’t come and all it would of taken on either those girls part was for someone to say “Hey Emily, I wrote the date down wrong, I thought I was moving into Yale NEXT Saturday so we had no time to buy all my college stuff so that’s what Lorelai was out doing.” Like I know that Emily would still be Emily BUT if instead of trying to hide everything all the time they could just tell her how it is. ¬†Who knows, in the end it might be better for all of them. And yeah, it added the drama factor but a lot of it just seemed too much at times. So they end up in this huge fight and not once do they just admit that they messed up the move in date.

3.) Lukes Daughter: Okay, can I just say, what the HECK were they thinking. And this happened while Amy was still on the show so it’s not like you can pass this off as a “new writers” mistake. Nope. Everyone I know, and I mean EVERYONE, hated this plot line. If they were trying to mix things up and add drama, they did. But in the process they ruined one of the best love interests on the show. I was never particularly found of Luke and Lorelai (I personally always thought Lorelai should just be with Christopher) but they certainly deserved better than that. Like my goodness. Luke makes it so clear to Lorelai that he is ALL in, then 2 seconds later turns around and acts like this new plot twist changes things. The only reason that they threw that in was because they just couldn’t leave someone in love too long on the show. Like heaven forbid Someone actually finds a man.

4.) Lorelai and love: This really ties in a ton, like a TON but it’s not as bad as Rory and her loves. Which will be a whole point in itself. We will mainly focus on Lorelai and marriage. Lorelai never felt terribly about marriage, pretty sure she loved the idea. She ran off and married Christopher pretty fast in Paris. She had ended things with Luke and Max for VERY good reasons as well. She wasn’t with Chris at the time because she was 16. I mean these are valid reasonings. But then END it, don’t taunt people with it. Max leaves, then suddenly reappears right around Rory and her graduation time. Lorelai made it obvious she wasn’t in love. The whole story of Emily trying on her wedding gown every night really hit home, especially when Lorelai realized she wasn’t really into it like that and that it was important to be really into it. So, end it. Don’t bring Max back and have Lorelai be like “but I did love you.” because she didn’t. I’m cool if they wanna end relationships with good reasoning and good wrap ups. But to drag them out is insane. And to go back between “I love you, I don’t, no wait I do.” Is redundant, and quite frankly insane for a woman over 30. It felt as though the writers just couldn’t allow for Lorelai to settle down, and always had to keep her up and moving through the men. It was quite frankly, a little depressing.

5.) Rory’s love life: So Rory sort of took the exact opposite as her mom, but also took the same route as her mom. If that is even possible. She was a boyfriend girl, she just needed to have a solid relationship. Which is fine, plenty of girls tend to be in a relationship vs dating. But Rory also couldn’t get out of the repeat rut herself. She freaking destroyed a marriage because she felt like she had some claim on Dean. Rory is somehow painted to be this super smart girl, with independence and who will not let anyone stomp on her independence. So we were supposed to believe that she would drop it all and bed the first guy who batted his eyes, even knowing that he has a wife. Also, in an interview Alexis herself said that this was way out of character for Rory and she was shocked when she read the script. On top of all that, she was trash talking Lindsey like mad all over town. Like hello, when did Rory go through the evil b*tch phase? Then, when she finally does figure out her love life, she drops it the minute marriage is mentioned, with no job prospects, no idea what she wants to do in her life and she can’t say yes because career? Uh yeah, okay Rory. Her rejection of Logan has always bothered me from the minute I finished the series. I get that the writers wanted to portray that strong female lead who didn’t need a man but she loved Logan, and it wasn’t as though he was saying let’s elope. He was saying let’s get engaged, let’s move and find jobs and then focus on the future. She literally could of been engaged for a few years if getting married young scared her that much. But Rory always viewed marriage as an end of the rode type thing, which is another point, and that it was ONLY an option once everything else in life fell into place. I think she could of considered it longer, or more seriously and come up with a better reason than “well, career” when she had no career and no options. Call me shallow but if the guy I was madly in love with offered me my dream job and dream life, I would seriously consider that. And if she truly felt as though she wasn’t ready, maybe make that more of point instead of making it seem like her non-existent career was the end all be all. Like no one would of looked down on Rory for getting a job in Cali with Logan. But again, it just felt as though the writers HAD to avoid any sort of settling down or happy ending with their love interests.

6.) The views on marriage: Okay, last point. But this one really bugged me ever since season 3. When Dean was super excited about marrying Lindsey and Rory basically called him an idiot in the streets because he wanted to get married. Their age didn’t put me off the wedding idea, they hadn’t been together super long so if anything that should of been a point and not their age at all. And it wasn’t any of Rory’s business, if it was a concern than either of their parents would of said something. Granted that marriage was a bomb, super rushed and they didn’t know each other that long but it failed because A.) they really didn’t know each other that long, Dean rushed it even when he still loved Rory and B.) Dean was a cheater cheater. Many factors went into that failed marriage and it wasn’t their age. Rory then goes on to practically yell at Lane over her mom sending Dave the marriage jug, telling her she is way too young to get married. Like just the thought of marriage made Rory’s skin crawl so badly. Like okay, is this really something you need to freak out about. A lot of factors go into marriage, and while I seriously do not recommend marrying right at 18, if you know the person well enough and you can make it work and realize that marriage is work then it’s up to you (and sometimes your parents) to decide. We strive so hard to normalize being married over the age of 35, because there is no ‘right’ age for marriage but then it’s normalized to turn around and shame those who did marry young. The show really tried to hard here to be the trendy, independent women show and they could of easily made Rory and her concerns more low key and maybe not about age. Maybe something like “Dean, you haven’t been with Lindsey that long, you’re just going to want to make sure that you guys can really work thought and deal with all that marriage has to offer.” instead of her freaking out and saying he is an idiot. And I mean, getting married right after high school is a little crazy, I can not deny that but I do feel that the only reason that was thrown in was to show how against marriage Rory was. If you get married at 20 or even at 40 it’s fine. If you hate marriage, again it’s fine. But the way the whole thing was portrayed really felt more like marriage shaming than an actual view on the matter. Her actual rejection didn’t make me mad so much as the her pathetic reasoning.

Basically a lot of the show really focused on making sure that Rory and Lorelai stayed those single independent girls, always fighting for themselves and being the best women they could be. Which is great, I mean after all isn’t this why we all love the show to begin with? But in life, people make mistakes and do silly things. People fall in love, people do get married. People speak up against those who wrong them, or at least just tell the dang truth once in a while. And while a lot of the show seemed realistic, at least for a show based on a mother/daughter best friend duo, some of the show just seemed like it tried too hard to make sure that they stayed powerful and single. While trying so hard to make it clear that they only needed themselves, they shoved aside any other valid help, or true relationships in their life simply because they couldn’t see past the whole independent woman lifestyle. But tv shows are based on the drama, and as annoying as these plot lines were, we probably wouldn’t want to watch the show if both girls had no problems and found a happily ever after. Though personally, I’m still bitter how season 7 ended and would of much preferred Amy’s plan to have Rory become pregnant than her rejecting Logan in such a brutal manor. In the end though we can’t help but fall in love with the Rory/Lorelai duo and wish desperately that we were all this close to our mothers.